Researchers spend an ordinate amount of time focused on the child or adolescent brain, but what of the adult brain? After all, the adult brain is the primary lead in developing the child’s brain. Why do we spend so much time focused on our children’s brains?
Read Time: 4 Min. 08 sec. This article is about parenting adolescents/teens, especially foster and adopted teens. In the end, teens are people too and the steps to take are not based on rocket science, but brain science. As always, Choose Love. Adolescents/Teens: Parenting Teaches Us How to Love When I Read more…
This article is about how to change behaviors, but really about how to love our children in an unconditional way yet not suffer from conciliatory parenting guilt pangs from being too soft on them. It is not about soft or hard, it is about love and safety. Especially with children with trauma histories, foster, adopted, or behavior diagnosis, a love where there is nothing a child can do to earn, and nothing they can do to lose.
Anger makes me angry. I can’t stand it when my children get angry. I believe in my heart that anger is just a symptom, a reaction, and not the problem itself. There is something behind and below it. The Post Institute teaches us that fear is what is buried there. When our children feel threatened, anger is the result. but when I get triggered, all of this understanding falls into my unconscious it seems, and over the waterfall I go, unable to stop.
Stop reacting and start responding. We know that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Living out our good intentions is more science than art. It is more practice than theory. As parents, our children learn more from our behaviors than our words. Here is a secret to better behavior for parents and children, and humans in general.
You Are the Thermostat
Parents are the primary modulators of stress and happiness within the home environment. You have control. You are the thermostat. You are the source.
This article underscores the importance of persistence when shifting paradigms from
traditional parenting to a love based Family-Centered approach utilizing unconditional love rather than logic, reason, consequences, and punishment.
This seasonal yet always appropriate article covers a summary of my journey into the power of love and its evolutionary framework.
This article covers the inherant behavioral feedback loops that get established through the emotional consious or unconsious triggers (stimulus) that casue learned behviors (reactions) for good or for bad. The term neurophysiologic refers to both body and mind. We have body/mind feedback loops that are both positive and negative. Scientific research has measured how we communicate and are connected on a cellular level.
Your words are one of your great power tools in your parenting toolbox. They can heal, hurt, inspire, plant seeds, create wonder and even cause someone to dismiss you completely. Like your children, perhaps.
