Researchers spend an ordinate amount of time focused on the child or adolescent brain, but what of the adult brain? After all, the adult brain is the primary lead in developing the child’s brain. Why do we spend so much time focused on our children’s brains?
Read Time: 4 Min. 08 sec. This article is about parenting adolescents/teens, especially foster and adopted teens. In the end, teens are people too and the steps to take are not based on rocket science, but brain science. As always, Choose Love. Adolescents/Teens: Parenting Teaches Us How to Love When I Read more…
This article is about how to change behaviors, but really about how to love our children in an unconditional way yet not suffer from conciliatory parenting guilt pangs from being too soft on them. It is not about soft or hard, it is about love and safety. Especially with children with trauma histories, foster, adopted, or behavior diagnosis, a love where there is nothing a child can do to earn, and nothing they can do to lose.
Stop reacting and start responding. We know that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Living out our good intentions is more science than art. It is more practice than theory. As parents, our children learn more from our behaviors than our words. Here is a secret to better behavior for parents and children, and humans in general.
After our last article telling us to Just Stop It!, I thought I would follow up with some helpful tips to practice the simple but not easy Just Stop It technique by Bryan Post and Bob Newhart. Introducing the Mindful Stopping Practice.
Learning to change our behaviors as parents is the most efficient and effective way to influence our children. It is also the most difficult. Behavior change is not an easy process as we all know. Habits, good or bad, tend to deepen our tendencies, making it harder to break our parenting patterns. New paradigms mean new habits to build new behaviors. Start now.
This article underscores the importance of persistence when shifting paradigms from
traditional parenting to a love based Family-Centered approach utilizing unconditional love rather than logic, reason, consequences, and punishment.
This seasonal yet always appropriate article covers a summary of my journey into the power of love and its evolutionary framework.
This article covers the inherant behavioral feedback loops that get established through the emotional consious or unconsious triggers (stimulus) that casue learned behviors (reactions) for good or for bad. The term neurophysiologic refers to both body and mind. We have body/mind feedback loops that are both positive and negative. Scientific research has measured how we communicate and are connected on a cellular level.
Research suggests that willpower or self-control may be sharpest in people who are sensitive and open to their own emotional experiences. Willpower, in other words, may relate to ’emotional intelligence’,” said Michael Inzlicht, associate professor of psychology at UTSC.
